If you ask the teenage children of Scott Weiland when he died, they won’t say December 3rd, 2015.
According to their mother, they lost their father years ago.
That’s just one of the revelations in a candid letter published in Rolling Stone following the death of the Stone Temple Pilots singer.
It was written by Mary Forsberg Weiland. She is Weiland’s ex-wife and the mother of their children, Noah, 15 and Lucy, 13.
“We don’t want to downplay Scott’s amazing talent, presence or his ability to light up any stage with brilliant electricity,” Forsberg Weiland wrote. “But at some point, someone needs to step up and point out that yes, this will happen again – because as a society we almost encourage it. We read awful show reviews, watch videos of artists falling down, unable to recall their lyrics streaming on a teleprompter just a few feet away. And then we click ‘add to cart’ because what actually belongs in a hospital is now considered art.”
Forsberg Weiland said their children were only photographed with their father a handful of times in 15 years. She also said their children were not invited to the wedding when Weiland remarried and that his child support was often late or not sent at all.
“I don’t share this with you to cast judgment,” she wrote. “I do so because you most likely know at least one child in the same shoes. If you do, please acknowledge them and their experience.”
“Offer to accompany them to the father-daughter dance, or teach them to throw a football,” she continued. “Even the bravest girl or boy will refrain from asking for something like that.”
Forsberg Weiland’s closing paragraph might be the most poignant:
Noah and Lucy never sought perfection from their dad. They just kept hoping for a little effort. If you’re a parent not giving your best effort, all anyone asks is that you try just a little harder and don’t give up. Progress, not perfection, is what your children are praying for. Our hope for Scott has died, but there is still hope for others. Let’s choose to make this the first time we don’t glorify this tragedy with talk of rock and roll and the demons that, by the way, don’t have to come with it. Skip the depressing T-shirt with 1967-2015 on it – use the money to take a kid to a ballgame or out for ice cream.
Weiland had a long history of drug abuse. Police in Bloomington, Minnesota, said they found a small quantity of cocaine in the bedroom of the tour bus where Weiland was found dead last week. His exact cause of death has not yet been confirmed.
Weiland is from Northeast Ohio, having attended Kenston Local Schools in Chagrin Falls from kindergarten through ninth grade, according to an article on the district’s website.
He moved to California when he was 15.
Weiland performed at Roverfest 2015 in Lorain this past summer.